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Gottman Relationship Coach: How to Make Your Relationship Work
Trade harmful communication patterns for more laughter, communication, and love in your life.
Learn what it takes to build and maintain a happy, healthy connection that lasts a lifetime, all according to science.
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How to Make Your Relationship Work will teach you core Gottman relationship principles like The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and The Sound Relationship House, so you can take intentional steps towards knowing each other and deepening your friendship to secure a happy, lasting connection.
Includes 16 Proven Ways to Make Your Relationship Work
- Gentle Start-Up
- Use "I" Statements
- Complain Without Blame
- Make and Accept Repair Attempts
- Focuse On Positive Qualities Your Partner Has
- Practice Gratitude Every Day
- Show Affection and Commitment
- Share the Load With Your Partner
- Learn How to Listen
- Make Intentional Changes in Behavior
- Stop and Take a Break
- Focus On Self-Soothing
- Improve Communication
- Turn Towards Your Partner
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Frequently Asked Questions
Common questions answered below. More help: Gottman Support Center.
What is the Gottman Relationship Adviser?
The Adviser is an unparalleled approach to relationship wellness. Measure your relationship health with a research-based self-assessment, analyze key areas of your partnership to identify your strengths and weaknesses, then start a tailored, step-by-step digital program proven to heal and strengthen your connection. Improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere.
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What is the diference between the Gottman Relationship Adviser and the Coach Programs?
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How does the Gottman Relationship Adviser analyze and explain my relationship?
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If I have purchased the Gottman Assessment or a Coach program, can I still experience the Gottman Relationship Adviser?
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Do I have to take the Gottman Relationship Adviser with my partner?
No, you have the option to take the Gottman Relationship Adviser with or without your partner. You can take the Gottman Relationship Adviser alone to learn about yourself and your relationship, or you can invite your partner to take the Adviser as well, even after starting your own self-assessment. After you log in and invite your partner, they can access the Relationship Adviser by registering on Gottman Connect. Once they register, they will have the option to complete the self-assessment to receive their own custom relationship results..
Will my partner and I receive separate results?
Yes, you and your partner complete your own self-assessment and receive separate results based on your unique answers.
What does the assessment portion of the Gottman Relationship Adviser measure?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser can help you gain insight into your overall relationship health, friendship and intimacy, romance, sex, and passion, how you manage conflict, your shared meaning, trust, commitment, and more.
What if my partner and I decide we need to see a therapist after taking the Gottman Relationship Adviser?
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