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Get Back on Track During Conflict

Turn arguments around and manage conflict with a few simple phrases.
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Even in a healthy relationship, mistakes, carelessness, and conflict are inevitable. The right repairs at the right time can make all the difference. ⁠

Resolve disagreements and get your message through by finding common ground, sharing when you feel persuaded, and stating when you need to take a break or when you feel that you’re both moving towards a solution.⁠

Getting Back On Track During Conflict: Pause, Rewind, Repair

I just need this to be calmer right now 
Can I take that back?
I need your support right now 
Can we take a break?
Let me try again
I’m sorry
I really messed up, I can see my part in this
I want to say this more gently but I don’t know how
I know that this isn’t your fault
Thank you for…
I understand
I love you

Together, you can get back on track during conflict.⁠

Repair is one of the best tools a couple can have at their disposal. Learn how to use repairs in the Gottman Relationship Coach: All About Conflict collection of workshops, video exercises and more.


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So you just had an argument. Now what?  The latest program in the Gottman Relationship Coach, “Making Up After an Argument” includes a step-by-step exercise to help you and your partner process an argument and discover what you were really fighting about. In addition to our powerful “Aftermath of a Fight” exercise, “Making Up After an Argument” includes sections and exercises on feeling overloaded, taking effective breaks from conflict, and how to rebuild the lines of communication—even mid-argument. 

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Drs John and Julie Gottman are excited to introduce this  Gottman Relationship Coach collection, All About Conflict.

The first program, “Dealing with Conflict”  teaches the basics of communication in conflict. You will learn which of the problems your relationship faces are solvable, and which you may continue to encounter. If any of these perpetual problems have you stuck, the Gottmans can help you get “unstuck” and understand each other’s perspectives. “Dealing with Conflict” helps prepare you for the regular, inevitable moments of friction that are bound to arise in any relationship.

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