Kyle Benson

Kyle is a couples therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. He loves nerding out on the science of relationships. When not highlighting research on a Sunday morning in his bathrobe, Kyle enjoys writing for his blog Kylebenson.net where he takes the research on successful relationships and transforms them into practical tools for romantic partners.

Kyle's Posts

The Grass is Greener Where You Water It

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Building trust and commitment requires intentional effort. Here are fives ways to invest in your relationship. ...

Small Things Often Create Secure Attachments: An Interview With Amir Levine, M.D.

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One of the most effective ways of regulating our emotions when we are in distress is to be in proximity to ...

Reaching a Compromise: The Second Part of the State of the Union Meeting

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The first step in problem-solving is to identify your core needs. ...

Understanding Each Other: The First Part of the State of The Union Meeting

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Each partner will be given a time to speak and a time to listen as you work through the different stages ...

Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner’s Feelings

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Instead of trying to change or fix the feelings of the person you love, focus on connecting with them. ...

Understanding Must Precede Advice

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Learn how to use conflict as an opportunity to understand and get to know each other better is a vital part ...

How to Attract Your Ideal Client as a Gottman Couples Therapist: An Interview with Joe Sanok, MA, LLP, LCC, Part II

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A detailed knowledge of who you want to attract helps you decide where you dedicate your energy and time. ...

Transforming Criticism into Wishes: A Recipe for Successful Conflict

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For conflict conversations to succeed, you must state your feelings as neutrally as possible and transform any complaint about your partner ...

There Are Two Views to Every Conflict and Both Are Valid

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You don't have to agree, but you do need to show respect for your partner's opinions. ...

Help Your Partner Understand Your Side of the Conflict in 3 Steps

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Here's how to get your partner to attune to you during conflict. ...

Practice of the Practice: An Interview with Joe Sanok, MA, LLP, LCC

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Joe Sanok, MA, LLP, LCC interview on what a therapist needs to know before opening a private practice. ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship with State of the Union Meetings

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When couples meet once a week for an hour, it drastically improves their relationship. ...

How Being Nuanced with Your Emotions Enhances Your Well-Being: An Interview with Susan David, Ph.D., Part II

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Part II with Susan David, Ph.D. “This is what I’m feeling. What is my partner feeling?” ...

4 Typical Solvable Relationship Problems

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Here’s how to make everyday conflict less draining. ...

Repair is the Secret Weapon of Emotionally Connected Couples

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All couples argue. Successful couples repair. ...