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Ellie Lisitsa

Ellie Lisitsa is a former staff writer at The Gottman Institute. She holds a PhD in Clinical Psychology.

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Desire in a Long-Term Relationship

Ellie Lisitsa

You can build long-term happiness and stability in your relationship with the proper tools. ...

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An Introduction to the Gottman Method of Relationship Therapy

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The Gottman Method has helped thousands of couples have the relationship that they want with better communication. ...

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How to Practice Self-Soothing

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Remember: the ability to self-soothe is one of the most important skills you can learn. Practicing it can help you not ...

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The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling

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The last, but certainly not least, of the Four Horsemen is stonewalling. ...

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Contempt Part II

Four Horsemen: Contempt Part II

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Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to continue Monday's discussion on Horseman #3 Contempt.

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The Four Horsemen: Contempt

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Contempt is the worst of the four horsemen. It is the number one predictor of divorce, but it can be defeated. ...

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The Four Horsemen: Defensiveness

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Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner. ...

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The Four Horsemen: Criticism

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The first of the Four Horsemen, and likely the most common, is criticism. ...

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The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling

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Being able to identify the Four Horsemen in your conflict discussions is a necessary first step to eliminating them and replacing ...

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The Workplace: Rituals of Connection with Coworkers

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Create a community at work with these tips and ideas. ...

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The Workplace: Things To Do Together

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All of these activities are great ways to form or strengthen the emotional connection in the workplace. Try them out or ...

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The Workplace: How Your Past Influences Your Connections with Coworkers

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What you bring from your past to the workplace influences your connections with coworkers. ...

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The Workplace: The Emotional Communication Game

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Apply your understanding from this exercise the next time you're at work. ...

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Homework Assignment: Turn Toward Your Coworkers

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Here a list of suggestions from Dr. John Gottman for building better emotional connections in coworker relationships ...

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Homework Assignment: Spring Cleaning

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Spring clean your marriage and refresh the love with these tips based on years of research from The Gottman Institute. ...

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